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There are situations where we say “YES”, when we actually intended to say “NO”. Sounds familiar? We do that with the intention of not hurting the person on the other end. So, how do we do what our mind and/or heart says?
Be Honest & Open If you are honest and open with your reasoning, anyone, at the least your best friend will understand. People generally like honesty (in turn trust) with friends. After all, that’s what friends are for. So, be considerate in your thoughts becoming words when you are asked something.
Be Specific People generally do not like going around a discussion point to arrive at the conclusion. Also, this is not a speech competition, so you do not need to provide any detailed explanation. Most times, sticking to the topic with relevant reasons would do the job.
Do not justify why you said NO Never ever justify the reason for saying “NO”, which beats the entire purpose of the conversation. If it needs justifying, then you do not actually want to say “NO” here.
After all these thoughts, you decide you are unable to do them, then, you can just say “YES”, even if your heart/mind talks you out if it. These deliberations happen only for friends and family. With others, your mind, heart and brain works in unison to say YES/NO, however intended.